In Memory of Our Friend 

Pete Heaviside

Pete Heaviside, 61, of Claremont died October. 3, 2004, at his home of natural causes. He was born January 20, 1943, in Kingston Jamaica. He was self employed as a General

                                                  Contractor. He started in soccer like many others with AYSO in

                                                 1982 he held a “C” & “B”  Coaches Certificate with AYSO he

                                                 also held a USSF D Coaching License & Coaching certificates

                                                 from NSCAA, AAU/CIF & Club Pumas of California. Pete has

                                                 touched the lives of many soccer players having coached in               

                                                  AYSO(1982-1988), Chino Blast(1986-1989), Ontario Elite

                                                  (1989-1991), San Diamas High School(1992-1993), Bishop

                                                  Amat High School(1993-1995), USISL Inland Empire Panteras

                                                  (1994-1995), Norte Vista High School(1995-1999), & Pomona

                                                 Pitzer College(2002).  He was a long time member the of

                                                  Tri-County Soccer Referee Association, where he could be

                                                  found on the soccer fields most Saturday and Sundays

                                                 officiating the game he loved. He was a registered USSF

                                                 Referee since 1989 attaining a Grade 7. Pete also refereed High School matches on and off between his coaching.  He is survived by his three children Patrick 32, Leslie 27 and Phillip 22; and his younger brother John.

Below are notes from Pete’s referee friends

As with so many, I knew Pete from our common love of

soccer.  We have refereed together for over twenty

years.  I knew him to be a man of wit, charm, and 

humor who never lost control of himself in even the most

difficult circumstances.  I tried to learn from his

example.  Knowing him made me a better referee and a

better man.  I will miss him.

Ed Henderson

First, we would like to express our deep sympathy to

Pete's family.  We will miss him very much both on and 

off the field.  We first met Pete almost ten years ago, 

and the thing we'll always remember is that he had a

new way of making us laugh every time we did games

together.  Some of his classic lines include:

"Hey ref, how do you sleep at night?"

"I just put my head on a pillow and close my eyes."

"Hey ref, what kind of a call was that?"

"911"

"Oh ref, give me a break!"

"Arm or leg?"

And we'll always remember when a player would protest

to Pete in Spanish (assuming that Pete didn't 

understand) only to hear Pete reply back in Spanish -- 

with a very thick American accent! -- loudly so that 

everyone could hear.

Thank you, Pete... You've made soccer more fun for all

of us.

Bing & Lex Kongmebhol

Pete was more than a fellow coach and referee he was 

a good friend and mentor. My sons Tom and Marty and

myself worked a lot of games over the last few years

and we always had fun with Pete. Personally we will

miss Pete's sense of humor on the field as well off. He

was always understanding and had a sense of humor

when we worked together. We will personally miss 

Pete's presence at the referee's meetings and on the

soccer field. Best Regards 

Tom Sr., Tom Jr. and Marty Soupcoff

Pete and I have been friends for over 14 years.  When I started as the assignor for Tri-County in 1991, I was always able count on Pete to go to any field at any time of the day.  He never complained about time, location or age group.  He just loved the game and loved being out on the field. Pete would call me almost every Sunday evening to fill me in on the events of the weekend on whatever sites he worked.  Pete never missed a game.  I remember one phone call from him telling me his car broke down, but not to worry, he was taking a cab to the field.  That cab ride probably cost more that what his game fees were.  But he did not care, he made the commitment to be there and he was.  He is one of the reasons I loved my job. 

Over the years our soccer friendship turned into a personal friendship.  From 1995 to 1998 I was the caregiver for ill grandparents, Pete also was helping care for his mother at the time understood what I was going through.  I would receive a phone call weekly from him, not just asking how my grandparents were doing, but asking how I was doing and making sure I was ok.  He let me vent and talk things out when needed.  His phones calls turned almost daily for weeks after the passing of my grandmother in 1996 and then again when I lost my grandfather in 1998.  Pete himself lost his mother just this past year and I hope I was able to give him the same comfort he gave me.

When I resigned as assignor in 2000, I lost contact with a lot of the officials I spoke with on a weekly basis, however Pete and I continued to stay in contact, we might not have spoke on a weekly basis, but a month would not go by that I did not hear from him.

I will miss his sense of humor, stories of his adventures on the field, but most of all I will miss hearing his voice.

Thank you Pete for being such a loving and caring friend.

I miss you already.

Penny Rehm

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